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Competition is not something purely relegated to sporting events or campaigns for public office. We are repeatedly faced with contests and competitions in virtually all aspects of our lives. We compete for job opportunities and career advancement. We contest for potential romantic partners and vie with any number of other factors for the attentions of our friends and loved ones. The one thing which holds the same in every contest is that some will succeed and others will not.
While the variety of specific strategies is as infinite as the variety of contests themselves our basic approach can fall into one of two categories. Are we aiming for ourselves win or are we aiming for the other person lose? It might seem like a minor distinction. In either event we win and the other person does not. We all would rather win than lose but where and how we focus our efforts and attention can profoundly change not only the nature of our outcomes but also our overall perception of the world around us.
Trying To Win Is Positive And Inclusive
Trying to win means putting yourself forward — if we are striving for ourselves to win then all our strategies and approaches will involve first and foremost putting ourselves forward as…