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Falling in love is an incredible, euphoric, intoxicating feeling. It is arguably the most overpoweringly wondrous experience our human lives have to offer. We have all felt attraction, infatuation, that giddy rush of a new relationship. But that special spark which leads to roaring emotional fires and leaping off emotional cliffs is something on an entirely other level. Sometimes it creeps up on us, sometimes is drops like an anvil.
Sexual attraction, chemistry, and compatibility certainly play a part in it but falling in love strikes at us much more deeply and in aspects of life which have nothing to do with sex whatsoever. Ask twenty different people to describe it to you and you will get twenty different descriptions but the one thing they will all have in common is the certainty you know it when you feel it.
And once we do we owe it to ourselves to figure out the truth of our situation. It would be wonderful if falling in love always led to happily-ever-afters but sadly, as soul-shudderingly powerful as it can be, when it flares in one heart there is no guarantee it will flare in the other. There are times when that spark, along with its flames and leaps, is only one-sided. You know it when you don’t feel it as well. And thus while falling…