‘Coming Out’ Does Not Manufacture Difference

It is simply reveals and shares an existing a difference you might not have known about.

Just Because You Didn’t Know About It Doesn’t Mean It Didn’t Exist

We have a tendency to assume things spring into existence the moment we find out about them. We do understand people, places, and events existed before us but an offshoot of information being now instantly available is the subliminal assumption we already know everything there is, and anything new we learn has thus just hatched into existence.

Their Reasons For Revealing Or Not Revealing Were About Them, Not You

The decision to come out, or not, is a deeply personal one. There are a virtually infinite number of potential factors at play which all essentially boil down to considerations of safety. It could be physical safety, emotional safety, professional safety, and we as a species have a rather horrific track record for handling difference.

It’s Okay To Be Unsettled, Even A Scared

When presented with something you didn’t expect it is perfectly okay to be surprised, shocked, unsettled, and yes even scared by it. It is a natural reaction. It doesn’t make you a bad parent, a bad friend, or a bad person. It means you are human.

What Is Being Asked For Is Acknowledgement, Not Approval

This final note is an important one for those on both sides of a ‘coming out’. We cannot demand anything from anyone else but their acknowledgement. We cannot force people to agree with us, we cannot demand they approve.

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A professional dancer, choreographer, theatre creator, and featured TEDx speaker with an honours degree in psychology, two black belts, and a lap-top.

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