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A professional dancer, choreographer, theatre creator, and featured TEDx speaker with an honours degree in psychology, two black belts, and a lap-top.

The different stages of dealing with a crisis and the wrong order we seem determined to put them in.

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A crisis can be something small and individually personal like forgetting your lunch when you leave the house in the morning. It can be intense and targeted like a tornado touching down. And a crisis can be life-or-death on a massive scale such as the risk of open war between nations. Whatever the scope or stakes, large or small, all crises are at their root the same animal. …


A question mark is not an excuse to say anything with impunity.

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Simply ending a sentence with a question mark does not render it purely innocent. Finishing a statement with an upward inflection in the voice does not absolve it of all responsibilities. A question as a thing is a tool, a method for requesting information. Unfortunately, there is currently a pervasive trend of ending accusations with question marks in an attempt to excuse the attack as ‘merely a question’ or falsely ennoble it as a ‘search for the truth’.

A question, at its basest function, is a relatively simple…


Both left and right leaning ideologies have versions of it and they are all equally harmful.

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The tribalistic concept of ‘us versus them’ is appealing at an instinctive level. It resonates with our base fight or flight survival reflex and appears to make the world an appealingly simple place to understand. The people who are with us are the good guys and those who are against us are the bad guys. Wanting things to be simple is natural. Deliberately blinding ourselves to the fact they are not is dangerous.

When looking at a specific person with regards to a specific…


There are specific reasons we often take things we find online far too seriously.

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It is all too common a phrase these days. Declared as it were an undefeatable trump card. There was a time when stating ones sources was only a part of the conversation, an offer to compare and examine information. Now we have entered a space in which existing online renders information immune to challenge or criticism. And attempting it reveals you as one of them.

One of the biggest conceptual benefits offered by a globally connected internet was the notion of universal access to information. On…


It is a way of life, of approaching all situations from the calmest to most chaotic.

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We talk about relaxation as something we do at set times and in particular ways. Taking ten minutes to grab a coffee. A short walk to clear our heads. A weekend away to unwind and recharge. A full vacation to leave it all behind and experience something new. Or we enhance and elevate the concept giving it a somewhat spiritual intimation and dub it ‘meditation’. The truth is these are all examples of methods for training and developing a skill we can use in…


Barely even existing a decade ago, now they are prominent forms of media.

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On its face the idea of spending time watching someone else do their make-up, prank their neighbors, editorialize their lives, play video games, or simply react to other content can seem rather silly. To those currently over the age of 55 it can sound downright ridiculous. But the needs being fulfilled are natural and extremely important. These are just some new ways of doing so.

There is no denying the online world has all but consumed just about every aspect of our everyday lives. Even before a…


It can also become an isolating island.

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We all like the idea of being someone who can handle anything, who is always able to find a solution, who remains unwavering and steady as a rock in the face of any challenge or crisis. There is an admirable nobility to being able to solve our own problems without being dependent on anyone else and those blessed with the affinity and resources for self-reliance very often become the ones others turn to when they need guidance or support.

It makes sense. Self-reliant people always seem to have their affairs sorted out which…


It can feel seductively more productive than it actually is.

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If we have things we believe in, there will be times those beliefs are challenged. If we have people or things we value, there will be times we are in danger of loosing them and times they will in fact be lost. These times will occur because the world and our lives are always changing. As the saying goes, ‘change is inevitable, except from a vending machine.’

Change is always a difficult thing and our instinctive apprehension about it is a natural reaction. When things change a known status quo…


Knowing who we are, acknowledging what is, choosing what we do, and understanding our reasons.

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When we hear the term self-mastery we envision someone calm, confident, and disciplined. They know what they are doing, they believe in what they are doing, but they are also measured and steady in their approach to it. They are hard to provoke and just as difficult to sway or influence without sufficient evidence and persistence. We picture someone capable of self-mastery as being peacefully forceful who probably meditates a lot.

While meditation practices are always helpful to life in general to pursue mastery of…


We have to work through we are to reach what comes next.

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It may sound like a deceptively simple thing. Thanks to gravity we need something below us to support us, to brace us up off of the ground. Whatever that entity may be, legs numbering anywhere from one to seven hundred and fifty or wheels or hovering technologies, its first job is to prop us up into some position other than lying flat on the floor. Its second job is to facilitate our movement from one location to the next.

The directions and qualities of that movement can vary…

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