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A professional dancer, choreographer, theatre creator, and featured TEDx speaker with an honours degree in psychology, two black belts, and a lap-top.

It can feel seductively more productive than it actually is.

If we have things we believe in, there will be times those beliefs are challenged. If we have people or things we value, there will be times we are in danger of loosing them and times they will in fact be lost. These times will occur because the world and our lives are always changing. As the saying goes, ‘change is inevitable, except from a vending machine.’

Change is always a difficult thing and our instinctive apprehension about it is a natural reaction. When things change a known status quo…


Knowing who we are, acknowledging what is, choosing what we do, and understanding our reasons.

When we hear the term self-mastery we envision someone calm, confident, and disciplined. They know what they are doing, they believe in what they are doing, but they are also measured and steady in their approach to it. They are hard to provoke and just as difficult to sway or influence without sufficient evidence and persistence. We picture someone capable of self-mastery as being peacefully forceful who probably meditates a lot.

While meditation practices are always helpful to life in general to pursue mastery of…


We have to work through we are to reach what comes next.

It may sound like a deceptively simple thing. Thanks to gravity we need something below us to support us, to brace us up off of the ground. Whatever that entity may be, legs numbering anywhere from one to seven hundred and fifty or wheels or hovering technologies, its first job is to prop us up into some position other than lying flat on the floor. Its second job is to facilitate our movement from one location to the next.

The directions and qualities of that movement can vary…


#5 : Anything other than full agreement or flattery is an attack.

We all wind up encountering people in our lives who feel their goals and ambitions should not be hampered by such a minor obstacle as the truth. Those who feel entitled, for whatever reason, to have everything they want without being bogged down by the boring, time-consuming, and potentially exhausting process of trying to earn them legitimately. …


Who lit the match doesn’t really matter when the house is still on fire.

Figuring out the source of a problem is an important ingredient in generating solutions. To prevent a problem from happening again we need to understand where it came from in the first place. There is a time and a place in the process for that kind of analysis. …


To be certain is to close the eyes, ears, and mind.

Doubt is an uncomfortable condition, but certainty is a ridiculous one.

Voltaire

There will always be things in our lives we feel confident in our knowledge of. The sun will rise tomorrow, all living things require water to survive, whichever line we join will immediately become the slowest moving. There are many things in our lives which have a great deal of evidence, both anecdotal as well as resulting from dedicated and detailed study, supporting our assumptions and assertions about them.

But the truth is the more we examine…


It is not an excuse. Nor is it a trivial afterthought.

No action or event ever happens in a vacuum. There are always multiple contributing factors which influence our choices at any given moment, a great many of which are shaped by the world around us and beyond our direct control. Decisions and actions which make perfect sense in one context can seem drastically different in another. One of the side effects of having access to everything at the same time is that it tends to strip away the context which is critical to genuine understanding.

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# 5 — We choose leaders based on their dramatic personas rather than their qualifications.

It wasn’t all that long ago we were describing ourselves as living in an information economy. Information was currency, access to information was crucial to success, and control of information was the ultimate form of power and influence. The flow of information is still central to the functioning of our global culture but our emotional reactions have become far more important than the accuracy of the information they are based on. To the point that the information, accurate or not, is becoming almost entirely irrelevant.


And those who flirt with the entitlement monster lurking in the grey areas between.

Erotic imagery has been around for thousands of years, taking different forms and facing sometimes small sometimes dramatic shifts in cultural attitudes. Sex sells. There is no denying it. The sexual drive is a primal force in our nature and has been since long before our species started walking upright. Brokering sex as a commodity is the ‘oldest profession’ for a reason.

Sexual enticement engages attention, guaranteed. Billboards and photospreads for Calvin Klein underwear are all about the model not the garment. Marilyn Munroe’s rendition of ‘Happy Birthday’ isn’t iconic because of her singing voice. …


One is a freedom, one is a privilege and too much of either can be dangerous.

The debates around free speech and whether or not it can or should have boundaries have been around as long as the idea of free speech itself. With the increasing intensity of efforts to confront bigotry and oppression as well as the counter-reacting upsurge in authoritarianism in the past couple of decades the debate has become all the more prominent and important. …

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